Thursday, August 27, 2015
Wednesday, August 26, 2015
Tuesday, August 25, 2015
Monday, August 24, 2015
A few months ago, Conrad began weighing options of fixing the GMC Safari van he had been driving the last few years or upgrading to a new vehicle. His van's air conditioning had stopped working a few years ago, the heat stopped working last winter, and other, more needed, repairs were on the horizon. After doing some shopping around, test driving, weighing out a variety of options, and then finally crunching some real numbers last week this was what Conrad ended up with:
A white car!
(I know it has a real name and lots of fancy features but really all I know about it is that Conrad got all of the features he wanted (and more!) and he is very happy with this final decision. (Of course, if he had bought a Nissan 350 or 370 he would be even more pleased but this one has enough bells and whistles to put a big smile on his face too.)
Kezia and I were both bummed that we didn't get to keep the big red ribbon, lol!
Conrad's car was number 46 of the 63 Civics sold this month alone at this dealership. It has been the number one selling car for 17 years....this probably means he'll really have to remember where he parks because there will be a couple dozen in the parking lots at any given time!
We've been so blessed to have the use of the other van for so long. It served us well....but the working heat in this new vehicle will be much appreciated when the cooler weather comes....and those heated seats well now he's just spoiled, lol!
Sunday, August 23, 2015
We are journeying into new stages as our children grow up. In March, Kiandra turned 18, she doesn't need any parent/guardian signatures anymore, and she was removed from our family health card and now has her own card. Kiandra can now vote in the next election. She is, in the eyes of the law, an adult. We have never been the parents of an adult child and we are so new to this stage of transition. It's a hard one. Hard to realize that your child is not so little anymore. Hard to realize that decisions are more permanent and can't be wasted. Hard to know when to hold or when to set free. Kiandra is very independent in many ways. She's packed her lunches and done her own laundry for years. She has her driver's license, can use transit, and will even walk to the places she needs to get to when she is able. She's been cooking like a pro ever since she was 9 years old and created a recipe that came in 14th place out of over 150 entries. She often makes supper for the family and loves experimenting with new recipes. She keeps her room tidy, sometimes volunteers to clean the house, and she helps out with setting the table and cleaning out the dishwasher. She is obedient, surrounds herself with great friends, makes good choices, and she is not even remotely close the boy-crazy teenager that her Mom was, lol! I am so blessed to have her as a daughter. She is becoming such an amazing young person.
However, in many other ways, Kiandra is very young in her thinking and in her responsibilities. Her full baby-sitting schedule, acting work, and especially her stand-in gig have padded her bank account in a way that few people her age have experienced. She hasn't had to have a "real" job. Lately, due to a number of conversations that Conrad and I have had with others we realize that on the job experience is invaluable as a skill and is a more reliable way to become even more independent, responsible, and more mature. Ultimately, that is the goal. It's hard for me to think that way because as much as I would love all my kids at home forever I need to realize that me making it too comfortable is not going to benefit anyone.
One of my favourite Mom bloggers (Vicki Courtney) wrote in one of her books that a parent's job is to successfully launch our kids from the safety of the home nest. To prepare them for life outside the home and to slowly move them to that goal. I found this illustration here:
So as we move into this new stage of parents to adult children, Conrad and I met with all of our children today to talk about expectations as they become adults. Things we have always provided and paid for will slowly become the responsibility of the new adult. We are slowly taking away the comfy padding and beginning to help with the transition. It's not easy. A friend of mine whose child is a year older than Kiandra says she struggles with the same thing: How much to create comfort and enjoy whatever time they choose to stay at home and how much to expect so that there is an increased independence. It's a tough call.
It was an interesting family meeting yesterday. A little too soon for Kezia and Kaden who seem to be so far away from the reality of adulthood and a little too close and personal for Kiandra. Conrad and I agreed that this meeting should have occurred years ago but this whole adult child thing kind of snuck up on us too.
So we journey this new stage together....one day at a time. We want our home (nest) to be welcoming but not at the expense of stunting our children and not preparing them for life when they move out. Our job as parents is to get them ready for the next stage and if we aren't doing that, we aren't doing our job.
Saturday, August 22, 2015
Friday, August 21, 2015
...time to outfit the boy in hockey equipment!
This growing guy needed quite a few pieces because he's grown about 4 inches since last year this time. He's just a smidgin taller than Conrad now!
Even though it's painful to keep buying new stuff every year I thought we did pretty well today. The skates were regularly $209 were on for $129 and then they offered a spend $100 and get a $20 giftcard.
The nice cashier allowed me to use that $20 of the $39.99 (on sale from $59) hockey pants. I even got 3 free skate sharpenings because that was the deal when you bought a pair of skates this week. Sa-weet!
Only a few more pieces left to buy and he's all ready for hockey try-outs in a few weeks.